Why did we go to extremes?

"And Jabez was more honorable than his brethren: and his mother called his name Jabez, saying, Because I bore him with sorrow."

1 Chronicles 4:9



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What causes behaviors truly harmful to man? There are several reasons, and what is important to understand is that many of them are directly related to the messages we receive while growing up.

For example, Why do so many people buy compulsively? The act of consuming gives people a sense of identity that they had in childhood.

Buy is not bad. Just becomes a problem "buy" when you have no self-control and when the action is directed to the seek of self-esteem (compensation) rather than self-satisfaction (reward), for example, between buy a new equipment that you need not simply because it is faster than that of his friend is different from buying a computer to attend the demands of education or their service.Sometimes the cause is situational as a divorce or after the death of a loved one. His inability to deal with new situations that require rapid changes can lead you to spend, stop working and take actions that normally would not take.

Another cause is the addictive quality of money. Betaendorfina is a substance produced by the brain when the activity is pleasurable. If the activity is consistently enjoyable and his quest for the enjoyment is constant, the consequences can be very negative as a indebtedness or a conflict in marriage. On the opposite side is the pathological fear of never having enough. Normally such people, like the skinflint, hold onto things so as extreme. They feed an irrational fear of which maybe they will need an old object and anticipate a bitter repentance at the thought in disposing of it.

Consciousness is a good first step to moderate these bad habits. When you recognize what is holding, buying or working obsessively, you'll be in better position to deal with a harmful behavior. So I want to share with you five steps to a significant change.

PRAY

Invite the Holy Spirit to speak about his life. Ask the Lord strength and good cheer for you withstand the confrontation with the "truths" hidden in your heart. Ask the Lord to show the root of these extreme behaviors, the episode or the word that triggered these situations. Talk to Him about this behavior, invite Him to examine what was not asked by you, but it is in their attitude. Seek and confess to the Lord in repentance its lack in having Him around. Ask the Lord consummate the inner healing.

CONSCIENTIZATION

Read and reflect on the statements that you heard about money, wealth, goods and people rich / poor, while growing up in age. Enumerate also the way of being and habits of their parents and friends in relation to wealth and money. Reflect on the aspects that you consider equal or opposite to their parents or friends. Think also about the specific emotional episodes about money that you have lived.

UNDERSTANDING

Reflect about how these phrases come affecting your financial life until today. Do the same about the effect that these examples or episodes may have affected your financial life.

DISSOCIATION

Realize that these beliefs and values represent only their learning past, they are not part of his anatomy, namely, they constitute not you and do not talk about who you really are.

AUTHORITY WITH DECLARE

The things I hear are not necessarily true, and the examples I had about property, wealth, money, rich or poor does not belong to me. I renounce these experiences and create a new and prosperous future for me. I refuse them all and choose to receive new ways of thinking according to the Word of God. My way of doing things I am what I choose with the help of the Holy Spirit. Observe and make proof of my thoughts with the help of the Lord, and only retain what is good and those who strengthens me, in Jesus name!

Now with the renovation, seek the Lord (I will write more on this blog) the three basic messages about money that will guide their words and attitudes in everything that involves your relationship with money, property and property. Seek concordance with your spouse and with the Lord in principles for Acquisition, Use and Management. These new messages will be Statute's family, you can use consistently in dealing with financial matters. Your messages should convey the values in accordance with its purposes, rather than fear.

If you wish, here are some tips.

On Acquisition, set a financial objective is good, provided that we do not get obsessed or consumed by it, depriving the needs chosen by our family. In Use, you can buy both basic needs and luxury items, but not to impress others or to establish self-worth. Expenses above $ 500.00 require the approval of ___________ and ___________, and in case of divergences, in particular its resolution will occur among both. There is no money or accounts hidden, even if they are separated. While the Management, keep track of finances is a responsible attitude, but without execute it at the cost of forgetting their responsibilities with their family and friends and commitments with their purposes.

Go beyond the blessings!